BDSM Fantasies More Common Than You Might Think

BDSM—which stands for bondage, domination and submission, and sadism and masochism, are more common than most people might imagine—both in the realms of fantasy and the real world. As reported in a study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine, around 22% of people have fantasized about BDSM, and around 47% have actually engaged in it at some point in their lives. Dr. Justin Lehmiller, author of the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life, has found that the taboo surrounding BDSM could in part be attributed to psychologists and psychiatrists classifying it as unusual. In fact, many of these practices are actually common among adults. Think about the popularity of the novel, Fifty Shades of Gray, and this idea certainly falls into place.

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Anal Sex – The Right Way To Do It!

Anal sex is one of the most extreme forms of sex, and people either enjoy it or are terrified even of the thought of it. Are you excited about the feeling of penetration into a new area? There are a few guidelines to maintain safe and proper sex in order to do it right. Find out how to make the new adventure enjoyable for you and your partner.

What is Anal Sex

Anal sex is any sexual activity that is intended to stimulate the anus area, whether it is done orally, by hand, with the aid of a device, or by penetration. The purpose of arousal can be to increase sexual excitement, foreplay, or even to achieve an anal orgasm. Some people find this type of pleasure natural, while others reject it out of sight. What might be the reason for the reluctance? A narrow anus or a fear of discomfort may force them to avoid it, or they may simply see it as an activity filled with pain.

What is Anal Sex

If you properly prepare yourself for anal intimacy, you will be able to experience a new kind of pleasurable experience without hygienic risks and pain. Of course, only if you are both open to it! Never force anal activity on your partner; otherwise, you will not only have a bad time but you will also be easily hurt. Sex that involves the anal region might be a bit more challenging than other types of sex acts.

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How to Get Your Partner on Board With Sex Toys

Some men see sex toys as a sign that they lack skills or of boredom in the bedroom and they can be. The bigger problem here is insecurity. Men can get overly focused on their ability to single-handedly please their partner, without any aids. That can be quite difficult.

The good news is that men are able to reach enlightenment with some support from you. The first step is to get your partner to relax. Assure them that they are an excellent lover. Give examples of times the sex was really good. Don’t be afraid to provide as much detail as possible.

How to Get Your Partner on Board With Sex Toys

Toys are not a Sign of Boredom

After giving reassurance about bedroom skills, tell them that toys supplement the act rather than replace biological ‘tools’. They will not distract you, take away, or replace your partner. Point out that you want to use toys together, not instead of him.

Adult toys are not a sign you’re bored by your partner. They help provide variety for couples. You wouldn’t give up vaginal sex because you enjoy cunnilingus (oral sex). The case of toys is analogical.

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