Some men see sex toys as a sign that they lack skills or of boredom in the bedroom and they can be. The bigger problem here is insecurity. Men can get overly focused on their ability to single-handedly please their partner, without any aids. That can be quite difficult.
The good news is that men are able to reach enlightenment with some support from you. The first step is to get your partner to relax. Assure them that they are an excellent lover. Give examples of times the sex was really good. Don’t be afraid to provide as much detail as possible.
Toys are not a Sign of Boredom
After giving reassurance about bedroom skills, tell them that toys supplement the act rather than replace biological ‘tools’. They will not distract you, take away, or replace your partner. Point out that you want to use toys together, not instead of him.
Adult toys are not a sign you’re bored by your partner. They help provide variety for couples. You wouldn’t give up vaginal sex because you enjoy cunnilingus (oral sex). The case of toys is analogical.
